Comments on: The Effects Of Unemployment On Men And Their Manliness

By: ATtheDump

ATtheDump — Mon, 30 Apr 2012 15:49:56 +0000

Nowhereman is complete right.
There is no real help for men at all, and what little “good” help there is costs a fortune, which when your unemployed is and living on savings is impossible to pay.
When will the modern man be free of guilt from the abuses of there grandfather’s?

By: Edgar

Edgar — Tue, 24 Apr 2012 15:21:03 +0000

In Germany, in the early 1990s many lost their jobs in the east; more women than men. Their feelings have been reported the same as men’s.
“We identify who we are as men by what we do for a living… Men often shape and carve their personalities, friends, colleagues, after work activities, and much more based solely on what they do for a living.”
This fact, as the whole article, would be a good argument to change your narrow, obviously one-sided notion of how to be a man: From fully job-centred to a bit more open, more-dimensional. Life is about so many things, work, family, relations, your own body, nature, culture and so on. Unfortunately the whole paradigm of the article is ultra conservative, taken for granted every stereotype on men and work.

I was unemployed several times. It was hard money-wise, and not comfortable when my friends had good jobs. Sometimes I was unstructured, feeling depressed and anxious about what would happen. But I never pressed myself into that narrow shape of “a man needs a job”, and tried to stay flexible and open-minded. in that way, th earticle seems to offer a wrong affirmation of unflexible stereotypes.

“Being unemployed has wreaked havoc on my sex life and my ability to perform in competitive situations.” Sorry to read that, I hope it became better. However, it does not start with your hormones, it all starts in your head: If you strongly believe that a man can only be who has a job, this pressure can cause erectile dysfunction.

By: nowhereman

nowhereman — Fri, 13 Apr 2012 13:18:17 +0000

Re: counseling

The entire industry for helping people is designed to coddle women, and hire angry women to shut men out from recieving “help”. The Domestic Violence industry, Family Courts, False Rape, Crisis Lines, community help places are over run by angry women, and we are not allowed to mention that fact. They hate men and perpertuate hate towards men, and society crumbles.

That is why men do not get conselling as much as women. There common sense behind it all, and then men are blamed for being stubborn and too proud to admit our psychology was battered. The truth is that we have common sense, some of us at least. I made all the mistakes reaching out for help any man would ever need to make to tell you all.

This is one of those things that nobody really believes, and they accuse people of being crazy. Angry women take jobs in the helping industry because it is like a kid in a candy store for finding vulnerable people. Guys, the last thing I recommend is “reaching out for help”. It is like reaching your hand into a basket of venomous snakes and spiders, hoping not to get bit. It is nasty out there for men. It is entirely designed in favor of females and to disfavor men.

By: esley

esley — Thu, 19 Jan 2012 21:40:33 +0000

I found this article to be honest and wonderfully profound. My boyfriend and I recently ended our relationship on very good terms because of his involuntary unemployment. He pushed me away. I didn’t understand why. Now I do. Thank You!

By: Mrs Moroccan

Mrs Moroccan — Wed, 23 Nov 2011 23:20:36 +0000

@ Pick Up Artist, work is work. Meaningful is meaningless after a certain point, when money is tight and times are tough. My husband (an immigrant) has been applying for job after job, but because it’s a time of high unemployment and there is a lot of anti-immigrant sentiment, it makes it even harder for him to find work. Something, whether meaningful or not, is better than nothing. It places a lot of strain on us, but we try to be positive as best we can.

By: Pick Up Artist

Pick Up Artist — Wed, 02 Nov 2011 21:59:42 +0000

Meaningul work is key… if it’s not meaningful I don’t care how much they pay me, it just ain’t happening.

By: gerovital romania

gerovital romania — Sat, 29 Jan 2011 18:55:48 +0000

it is capitalism that America loves?
right?

By: Todd

Todd — Fri, 03 Dec 2010 06:24:34 +0000

I have been unemployed for a little over 6 months. I can only speak for myself when I say that while online job searching is the least resourceful, many of the other tactics people suggest are easier said than done. “Why don’t you go out and pound the pavement?” right? Now imagine walking in cold to a business and asking to talk to someone about a possible job. It comes off as desperate and a little weird and your most likely response is, “Go to our website and fill out an application.” I have started networking, joined social groups, and called and asked my former employer for a job. I have yet to even get an interview. Your husbands need to try, but I really think that until you are in this situation, it is really hard to judge. Historically, we are in new territory. I cannot stress enough to you wives how much this affects your ego and security in your life and marriage as a man. We feel the need to provide, and you look for us to provide. We both know the deal. To not be able to handle that causes stress like you cannot imagine. Understand this, and tell them that you believe in them.

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By: Lisa

Lisa — Tue, 05 Oct 2010 02:29:00 +0000

My husband lost his job of 11 years in 2005. Since then he has only worked temporary jobs. Like Deb’s husband, he has also only been looking online for jobs which is probably the least resourceful way to find a job.
He started back to school (free program) to upgrade his skill earlier his year but has failed to take the test.
Some of our biggest arguments have been about me not being understanding. From my perspective, how long do I hang in there with someone who is not giving their full effort. I feel like I’m the one supporting the family & he’s just “here”.
At this point, I think he is not really even looking for a job because of the fear of rejection.
This is a very frustrating process for both men and women.