5 Phone Rules In Dating Everyone Ought To Know
David Wygant wrote this great post on phone rules in dating. David is a blogger I subscribe to and is truly a person who wants to help us guys. I really like the comparisons to the business world and how we seem to forget all the successful rules we’ve learned in business when it comes to women.
I’ve used the same rules as David, but put the Return To Manliness take on all of them.
5 PHONE RULES THAT MEN SHOULD FOLLOW WHEN DATING
1. Be Prompt When They’re Prompt.
The experts state that if women call you within 24 hours, then you should give them the same courtesy. Don’t play the games of waiting or sending a message. I do like this one for many reasons, if not for the courtesy factor alone. Real men will always give women their full attention and be upfront and gentlemen-like. It is really the right thing to do.
Where this rule tends to miss is the fact that men are busy and should be selective with their time. As a rule, you do NOT have to call everyone back who has called you and left a message. This is not to say you are sending a message or playing games. It is merely a fact of life that men don’t wait for things to happen to them - they make things happen. That being said, if the date or person was not what you expected, then you should have been upfront at the time time and not given the phone number out. Men should always be very selective with their phone number. Not calling them back after you have led the woman to believe you were interested does not show adequate manliness. (Everything here works for women as well)
2. If They Waited, You May Also Wait.
Again, men shouldn’t let things happen to them. They should make things happen and attempt to take control of their time. If the woman has decided to wait to call you for 4-5 days, there better be a damn good reason. If she was out of town or had an amazing reason to play it this way, fine. But if she was simply playing hard to get, then those are games the successful man doesn’t have time to play.
There is a good chance we men have already met another 4-5 women during that timeframe that may have distracted us. When the woman finally calls and we forgot your name after 4-5 days, for heavens sake, don’t be offended or put off by this. Also, if women wait this long to call the man and they leave a message, don’t be surprised us men have already moved on. Seriously, unless that last date is epic and drives us nuts, we don’t like the games. And if it was that good, we are on the prowl…
3. It’s OK To Call Right Back.
David is right on here. It doesn’t look desperate and if it comes off that way, you did something else wrong. By the way, who cares how it looks. You like her and she likes you. Tell her you have dropped all the games that normally get played because she is worth being treated different. Show her that she is special, but not in a creepy way. Essentially, be a man about it.
4. You Can’t Manipulate Someone Into Liking You.
I am not sure David has this one right totally correct. I like the idea that you SHOULD not manipulate someone
5. Being Busy Is No Excuse.
I think this is always a decent reason. I think as an excuse, it sucks, but we real men are busy. If being busy means playing video games or hanging with drinking buddies, then that of course sucks. But us gents that are running businesses, traveling, working multiple jobs, whatever, it happens. I do think it is gentlemen-like, though, to at the very least give a 15-30 second return call as D&J suggest. If at the very least to tell that person your situation.
I encourage my readers to subscribe David Wygant’s feed. I will continue to be a reader and enjoy learning from him. Don’t always agree with all of his posts, but he always bring a unique perspective.
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